Today I’m owning up to being a product of my generation. Sometimes I cringe when people write about texting in the blog world or when they describe it as a sign of the progression of their romantic relationships. But it’s the reality of the world we live in. And it’s my reality too.
At the start of this year our friends discovered the joys of group texting.
It was a magical escape from mundane life. It was a beautiful way to laugh with your friends all day long. It became a place where we didn’t need to be our fake internet selves.
I consider technology and media an okay form of communication with friends. I don’t think it takes away from my actual in-person relationships (as almost all have both components to them). I can have conversations in person and I can have conversations in written form. I can be deep in person and I can be deep in written form. I can laugh in person and I can laugh in written form.
But the reality is that we sometimes have a filtered-self we present through physical interactions with people, and we also have a (maybe even more) filtered-self we present through social media. The point is that we found a replacement social media where we could pull down a lot of the filters and laugh with each other about things we’re normally too embarrassed to admit are actually funny. I don’t want to be known as the girl who shares 10,000 memes on Facebook. But, they really are funny. And I really like sharing them with my friends.
Anyway, with the joys of group-text, there were also some trials. We kind of went through stages of a relationship. We loved talking to each other every second and laughing. Then a few months in we discovered everyone had different things they were trying to get out of our interactions with each other. Some people only wanted to make jokes. Some people wanted to talk about Jesus. Some people didn’t want texts coming in all day. Some people didn’t like to reply. Some people got offended when they didn’t reply. We even took “a break.” Each person at different times voiced frustration and desire to “leave the group.” And that was a break-up threat—because we all agreed that, “If one person leaves, we all leave.”
The hype died down for a while and I think we’ve found a healthy balance of not making it an everyday thing but still keeping the door open for that form of communication.
All of this is a long introduction to say that last night I visited something I had saved from August 7th—a trying time in our group-texting relationship (mostly because of me). They all sent good things about each of us, but it was my turn for a break from the group, and I didn’t reply. So last night I smiled as I read through them and decided to contribute three months later.
Lydia: An artist, caring, so so driven, intelligent, easy to talk to, has great music taste, great person to be silly with (I don’t care if ppl find it annoying), brave (saves me from ugly bugs), adventurous, has a beautiful voice, cares to have deep and real friendships, and has been there for me in the good and the bad.
Chancho: FRIENDLY, great uncle, nice to everyone around around him and so fun to work with!!! Miss it more than you know! Loves peace, makes me a better friend. l enjoy your Hispanic side because its very much like mine (music-wise and food-wise: bandeja paisa 😋). I am never too embarrassed to cry about my life to you. Not many people get to see that part of me. And Gives good advise in return!
Natalie: so wise, born to be a leader, good at conversations, talented, volleyball star, funny, and capable of making a boring environment into a fun and exciting one. Cares genuinely for the people around her.
Jeff: funny, loves knowledge, and has so much potential to be someone great in life, has amazing style and can pull of any hair cut. Loves to pray ;), good at making the ladies in the family happy. Your jokes make me laugh out loud most of the time when I’m alone! Haha
Juan: you’re a great guy with a great heart, you have a soft vibe that is very welcoming and easy to warm up to, you definitely make friends with everyone you encounter , you’re not someone that I feel like I have to some how earn their friendship , you just seem to volunteer it which is awesome.
Natalie: I love your free spirit; you seem so harmonious and care free. I love your sense of humor, ‘specially because it can be just as dumb and goofy as mine. You have an amazing balance if being ridiculously silly and tremendously deep and profound. You always seem to have a heart of encouragement and genuineness.
Angie: You’re so approachable and warm; you’re very jolly and have a joyful way about yourself; you have a very evident care and appreciation for others, definitely putting your friends before yourself; I see generosity and kindness in you.
Lydia: You’re so not afraid to let people know what you think, and let them know what you think over and over and over no matter what they think. You’re so ready to be vulnerable and build real bonds and friendships, you have to be deep. You strive for a more real and purposeful understanding of life. You put your heart in the things around you weather they be people or things you do and always try and remove superficiality but always be real.
Jeff: You have an amazing style and you are innovative and looking for new ways to advance.
Lydia: You are the only person I know who loves what they do so passionately and so incredibly smart.
Angie: You have a heart that breaks for injustice and you put the needs of those you love before your own.
Juan: You are so incredibly social. Everyone you meet instantly falls in love with you.
Jeff: you’re hilarious
Natalie: you’re so talented
Angie: you’re very compassionate
Lydia: you’re very caring!
Angie: Your awe for the world is incredible. Instead of carrying a rough edge where most people feel like they need to pretend like they know what they’re doing, you can just sit back, be amazed and ask questions. And you are strong. Instead of crumbling in moments that are emotionally demanding you always move forward. You have courage to face whatever comes before you with the hope of Christ.
Jeff: I think it’s cool that you talk to your mom and care about her in tangible ways. Also that you have a journal you’re not embarrassed about. Not all guys can be in tune with their emotions, and it’s nice to be friends with one who is. You’re still on my list for favorite dancing partners. And whether or not you still believe it, I really enjoy being friends with someone who shares in a lot of my personality.
Nata: You’re a little bit of everything. You’re strong when you need to be, gentle when you need to be and determined yet able to be flexible. You ponder life and know how to be silly about it. You know when to let things go.
Juan: You have a good heart that shines through everything you do. Your hunger for righteousness is genuine. And you are literally the most encouraging person I know.
*I admit, I fixed a few typos and sentence structures. But don’t worry, I left some error to leave room for personality to come out ;)